65. Power Tripping and Narcissism

The traits that define narcissistic personality include the six E’s Entitled, Exploitative, Egotistical, non-Empathic, Energetically draining and they will always have their Enablers. One thing we can be certain of is that narcissists can become great teachers, helping us learn how to manage and protect our energy.

Power tripping - Be aware of anyone around you who displays narcissistic traits and drains you energetically.

Narcissism is much better understood now, and we must be clear that we can choose whether to allow ourselves to be energetically drained. The draining may happen repeatedly until we receive the message to stand in our own power. This is how the energies of the universe work.

Empaths can be vulnerable to narcissistic behaviour, but working through this pattern can strengthen and empower you. We are here to be empowered, not to become a narcissist’s prey or their “flying monkey”.

The flying monkey - “The flying monkey” is a term used for people whom narcissists recruit—often kind bystanders—to relay messages to the person they are oppressing. To maintain control over situations and other people, the narcissist may play the victim. Innocent bystanders then feel sorry for them, unknowingly enabling the continued oppression of the victim.

Many family breakdowns occur because a maturing child will no longer allow anyone to control or disempower them. Controlling dynamics are breaking down, and it is acceptable not to allow anyone to control you. Family members should be kind and empowering, not controlling. It is acceptable to safeguard yourself and remove yourself from further psychological harm.

The causes of narcissistic traits - Experts believe that narcissistic personality disorder may affect more than 5% of the population. Narcissism does not stem from a single event but may develop through a combination of early abuse or neglect, brain structure, genetics, and environmental influences. This is a serious mental health condition for which help should be sought from an appropriate professional.

Childhood experiences - Early childhood experiences can increase the risk of these problems developing later in life, as children may form maladaptive coping mechanisms. Research also suggests that bullying can lead children to develop narcissistic traits as a defence mechanism.

Influencing factors - Although it is easy to blame parents for anything that goes wrong with someone who has been in their care, there is substantial evidence that genetic and neurobiological factors may also be involved. Brain scans have revealed structural variations, including reduced grey-matter volume in areas associated with empathy, particularly the anterior insula and prefrontal cortex. Cultural influences may also play a role, especially when achievement and social status are valued above well-being.

The most appropriate response to a narcissist - Because their prefrontal cortex may be underdeveloped or impaired, they may be incapable of introspection, further personal development, or accepting responsibility. In their own way, they may also be victims. Therefore, we can respond with compassion, but only from a safe distance and as an internal thought process—not by re-engaging with them.

Concerning your spiritual journey and personal well-being, this message encourages you to avoid becoming or remaining a victim. It also advises you to release grudges, as they can be toxic and detrimental, drawing more of the same energy towards you—the very energy you are seeking to reject and withdraw from.
Although grief and anger are normal parts of healing, try to give these feelings healthy outlets without suppressing them. Self-healing practices, such as the guidance in Card 55, may help, alongside appropriate professional support.

Your personal transformation - As you undergo transformations in your belief systems and raise your vibration, people closest to you who have controlling or narcissistic tendencies may, intentionally or unintentionally, behave in ways that undermine your authority, influence, or sense of self. If this is the case, implement and maintain strong boundaries to protect yourself and prevent further harm.

Healthy partnerships are energising. They facilitate:

- Feeling safe, accepted, and free to be yourself.
- Open communication.
- Respect for your boundaries and choices.
- Support and celebration of your goals and achievements.
- Feeling heard, honoured, and empowered.
- Careful remembrance of the intricate details that matter to you.

Power prompts: Your reality is valid. Do not allow anyone to gaslight you.

Where has the surrender of your power to narcissistic behaviour occurred, and what boundary can be put in place to reclaim it now?

Affirmation: I AM empowered and empower others.

Signposts: Number: 65 – Letter: M – Timeframe: 2 years.

Element: Fire: Aries, Leo, Sagittarius.


The cycle of corrosive, coercive control.
At first, their admiration feels wholehearted and intimate. They appear deeply attentive, reflecting your hopes, values, and vulnerabilities so convincingly that you believe you have found someone who understands you and reflect your values. You have been hooked in energetically and you feel in love. This idealised beginning establishes a powerful emotional bond and encourages you to trust the connection before its darker pattern becomes visible.

Then, without warning, their warmth gives way to anger over something minor and their lovemaking may change too. The outburst leaves you shocked, unsettled, and searching for an explanation. Because the relationship initially felt so profound, your first instinct is often to repair it. You try to discuss what happened, restore

harmony, and recover the closeness you once shared. Yet ordinary conflict involves mutual effort, accountability, and a sincere willingness to understand one another. Within a recurring pattern of abuse, conflict serves a different purpose: it establishes dominance and conditions you to manage the other person’s emotional state.

Control often begins through jealousy disguised as concern. They question what you wear, who you speak to, where you go, and how you spend your time. Each demand appears minor enough to justify, particularly when you remain focused on preserving the relationship. You alter your behaviour to prevent another outburst, believing that careful cooperation will restore peace. Gradually, these concessions become a system of control. Friendships weaken, personal choices feel dangerous, and your own judgement becomes increasingly difficult to trust.

The outbursts continue, often followed by remorse. Afterwards, they apologise and briefly return to the person you first loved. Their tenderness revives your hope and persuades you that the incident was exceptional, that insight has finally arrived, and that lasting change is near. Yet the repeated cycle reveals a different reality. Calm periods grow shorter, tension returns more quickly, and each reconciliation prepares the ground for another eruption. Eventually, apologies lose their sincerity or disappear altogether, replaced by moodiness, tantrums, humiliation, and insults.

As the pattern intensifies, the relationship becomes organised around anticipation. You monitor their tone, expressions, movements, and silences, attempting to predict what will trigger the next attack. Your life contracts around their moods. The person you first encountered reappears only when they want something from you, require reassurance, or need to draw you back into the cycle. Their occasional tenderness no longer represents safety; it functions as a means of maintaining your attachment. They do just enough to keep you hooked in, so their needs are met by you.

An isolated argument does not define every relationship. Repeated rage, intimidation, jealousy, degradation, and refusal to accept responsibility, form an urgent warning pattern. Together, these behaviours erode confidence, weaken independence, and teach you to abandon your own needs to preserve a temporary peace. What began as idealisation has become coercive control, and control has developed into repeated abuse.

What is more serious is the affect these behaviours have on your mental health. You are now often in fawn mode as adrenaline and cortisol flood your body. Prolonged exposure to these behaviours and the hormones the body produces when in Fight, Flight, Fear, Fawn, and Faint mode can ruin your life as mental health issues then induce health problems.

Do not dismiss these signs or explain them away. Observe whether the behaviour repeat, whether accountability remains absent, and whether your freedom steadily diminishes. The pattern itself carries the message. You deserve a relationship founded on respect, safety, honesty, and mutual care—not one that requires you to organise your entire life around another person’s anger. Do yourself a favour and go now without looking back.